Protection

I am really amazed on how living things on earth protect themselves in order to survive. Some have the ability to change it’s colour; some can give out a very unpleasant odour, some pretend to be dead and some just retract back to its shell.

Human being, I think is designed very differently! At least in terms on how we protect ourselves. I remember when I was in junior 3, my science teacher said that human being’s protection mechanism can be summarized by using 3 F’s. Fucked, Flight and Fight! Ok, the first F is supposed to be Fright. My version of the theory is- got Fucked, either Flight or flee; or better still Fight the hell out of it! My teacher’s version- got Frighten, either Flight or Flee; or Fight! The above theories are very true in life. Snakes, for instance, try to frighten it, either it will turn the other way or it will bite you!

Although this protection mechanism comes built in when were born, sometimes I think it did more than protecting us, it deprived us of the real world. Living being is mainly selfish and it is not wrong. It cannot be viewed narcissism simply because ewe would do our very best to prevent ourselves from being hurt! However, there are times when we try to protect ourselves; we have given up the experience of feeling something new, some thing we think we felt before. Many a time, we go into protection mode because of out previous experiences said that this situation equals to pain, but as the mater of fact it might not be the same experience at all!

This is very real when it comes to experience related to relationship! Many after experiencing bad relationship consciously try to avoid getting into one. But how can you tell that this relationship is not going to work? I have noticed that many lonely souls out there is too scared to give it a shot, although many really wants to get into a relationship. My suggestion is, if it is only a thought in your mind that you want to give relationship a try without taking action, it will always be a thought in your mind, forever. However, if you think you really want to give relationship a try, take some proactive actions, who knows the fellow is waiting for your move? Do not live in the past, even the flower that was in the garden yesterday will not be the same today; sunsets differ day to day! Give it a shot, do not deprive yourself the privilege to be with the person you really like. And I always believe this, we do not always get the chance to do things that we really want for ourselves, when given a chance do not let it go just like that. And I still stand by my theory- got Fucked by whatever, Fight first before consider to Flee! Or at least lift your middle finger at it and Fuck It!